YOU ARE IN CONTROL.

Keep your fears if they are useful. If not why keep them? Better to move on, try something new & 'fail' & then try again. You'll make it one day. The only person you need to listen to is yourself. So if you tell yourself you are good enough to be honest, kind & loving. Then just believe yourself. You don't have to listen to others when they put you down. Why? Because they don't know you as well you know yourself. So Believe yourself not negativities.

Causes that make up the 'truth' can be changed. Hence truth can be changed. Nothing is permanent & solid. So Relax & don't be too caught up. Knowing things can change because everything is not solid and real can make you have hope.

When they try to hurt you. Think why is it that they CAN HURT YOU? Because if you don't allow it, they lose their power to hurt you. YOU ARE IN CONTROL. What makes you feel hurt is your wrong perceptions & illusions about another. Just look at people for who they are & not through your expectations.

"All Dharma should be taken as personal advice". ~ King of Dharma Tsongkapa

Expectation is good if your mind is free of wrong perceptions. Until then just be patient, accepting & take it easy. Unless you are enlightened, your perceptions will always be flawed. Hence practicing patience with others & YOURSELF is extremely important.

Relaxing doesn't mean not doing anything about it. It just means to be aware, understand & learn without reacting leading to regret later. You can relax in any situation if you understand the true deceptions in samsara. If thing go badly in samsara, you shouldn't be surprised. But if things go well, THEN YOU SHOULD BE SURPRISED. The nature of existence in samsara is always sufferings eventually. Because the karma to keep it fueled and running is ignorance. Our delusions make us think, do & react in such a way that more negative circumstances are repeated again and again.

~tweets from Tsem Tulku Rinpoche